This is the time of day when I miss him most - early evening, when the day is drawing down and we both would stop whatever had kept us busy that day and turn to one another for companionship and conversation.
He would make me a drink and -- if the weather permitted and it nearly always did - we would head out into the garden. The dogs knew this routine so well they would meet us at the crossing in the walk -- are we going to sit in the pergola or in the Chapel Garden? When we would tell them which, they would tear off ahead of us, thrilled to be outside with us, knowing we would be playing with them, talking to them, laughing at them.
Daisy and Sam still look at me this time of day when I step outside -- are we going to spend time out here together, their eyes ask?
But I just can't. Sitting in the garden without him is so meaningless, so arid, so devoid of contentment that when I do sit outside I end up weeping, and the smaller dogs end up huddled around my feet, with big dog Booker putting his paws round my neck and embracing me in his distress.
I worked all day yesterday in the guesthouse garden, and when I finished, dirty and exhausted, I realized I had already turned to call him to come see how it looked, to come have a drink with me there while we enjoyed it together. But he isn't here, and the joy in the beauty of the space drained away, and it became just another job among many to finish.
I know the dogs worry about me. When I collapse in the garden weeping, they pile all over me, upset and trying to figure out what to do. I suspect if it weren't for them, I might end up curled up in a ball out there. But they are here, and so I don't end up that way.
Instead, I walk into this oh-so-empty house, wash my hands, wipe my face, and try to figure out how to move through the next few hours until I can fall into blessed sleep, where, for a few hours in treacherous dreams, he is still with me in the garden. Because, in my dreams, we are almost always in the garden.
But the price paid for these sweet dreams is awakening every day to the knowledge of just how enormous is the space his absence occupies.
God, how I miss him.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Be gentle with yourself.
He was the best everand truly missed by all. His favorite expression when someone died was "well, theyve gone to Glory". Well, he's now in Glory...and taking care of those here who arent., God's peace.
He was the best of the best! His favorite expression when someone died was "they've gone to Glory" That is where he is now, looking after those he left behind. God's peace, Katie.
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